All men’s bodies are valid.
No matter what you look like, all men’s bodies are awesome!
Penises come in all shapes and sizes.
Circumcised or uncircumcised, big or small, curved or straight, scarred or not, all penises are good penises. Some men don’t have a penis at all. Some men call other body parts their penis.
When it comes to sex – size or what you have isn’t everything; it’s about how you use it 😉
There’s lots of body parts that can give you pleasure, not just the penis.
When it comes to men’s bodies and pleasure, we generally focus on the genitals. The human body is covered with different erotic places – the entire body can bring you pleasure! Some people’s nipples, necks, or ears are especially sensitive. Everyone has different places in their body that provide pleasure to them. Have fun exploring your own and your partners.
Pleasure is a team effort.
Sometimes men feel pressured to take control and be in charge during sex, but sex requires communication between everyone involved. It’s important to be open about what you and your partner/s enjoy so that you can have pleasurable experiences.
Masturbation can be good for your mental health.
Masturbation can help with stress relief, improving your mood, releasing tension, and getting to sleep. Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of life for many people.
Masturbation, or whatever you call it, is perfectly normal.
You don’t have to want sex to be a man.
Society seems to tell us that being a man means wanting to have lots of sex, but that’s not always the case. Everybody’s sex drive is different. Some men are asexual and may not be interested in sex at all.
Sex is more than just a penis in a vagina.
There are lots of ways to have sex, and not all of them involve a penis in a vagina. You’ve got anal sex, rimming, blowjobs, eating out, and fingering to name a few. You get to define what sex is.
Getting hard and staying hard can be hard.
Porn and movies often make it seem like getting and keeping an erection is super easy, but in real life there are lots of things that can make it difficult. For example, if you’re nervous, have consumed alcohol, or take certain medications, this can affect your erections. Whilst this is quite common there’s still a lot of pressure on guys to have and maintain erections – this can be super stressful and overwhelming. It can be good to talk to a trusted mate, an understanding partner or a sexual or mental health professional about how you feel. Sometimes just talking about it can help ease those erection nerves.
Lots of guys feel emotional after sex, there’s no shame in that.
Sex can be very intimate and for some it’s also quite a spiritual experience. Orgasms release many chemicals into your brain. Some guys feel sad, overwhelmed, frustrated or a whole range of other emotions after sex. Some even feel like crying – studies show us that this experience is very common. Whatever you feel after sex it’s always ok to feel those feelings and to talk about them.
Consent is an ongoing discussion between everyone involved.
Consent is not something you ‘give’ or ‘get’ – it’s a two, three or more way street. Communicating about consent should happen throughout a sexual experience, not just at the very beginning. Keep checking in and make sure the other person/s are enjoying themselves and feel comfortable. And remember that consent can be withdrawn at any time.
Porn can add to your pleasure, but it can also be unrealistic.
Lots of people watch porn to assist them in getting aroused or getting off. However, it’s important to remember that porn can be very unrealistic; porn sex is very different to real sex.
Being a man means something different to everyone.
Sometimes it can feel like there’s a lot of expectations on how to be a man. These standards can be impossible to live up to. Be a man the way that feels authentic to you.
Download a PDF of this poster here: YEP What they Don’t Tell Us Guys About Sex Poster
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